So the people at Byju's have sent us a mail telling us of Jaden's score in some test they conducted at his school. Now they are saying we (Alphy and me) have a free consultation opportunity based on the test scores. The lure is a promise of Jaden excelling at school work. They are even throwing in the customary Indian bait of an IITian mentor (what could be worse, eh? ) to do the guiding.
So why are we not biting Byju's bait like probably scores of Indian parents?
One, we know the research on what makes kids excel. Here it is. The key is to get parental aspirations in line with realistic expectations. In other words don't set the bar too high or too low. Two, we are mostly insulated from the desire to display our kids' success as an outcome of our super parenting skills. Sure, we are delighted when they do well, but that's no reason to go tom-toming about it. Plus what if they fail? Should we curl ourselves up into a corner? Three, we believe its a tad bit early to do the assessment stuff. What the kids are good at, and what they naturally take to can be arrived at in good time. For now its about pursuing their natural talents, and of course we can our do our bit to condition them to stuff like self-discipline. The IITian mentor can wait, and so can the intrusive tracking.
As with pricey cars and fancy houses, successful kids too make for great social display. There's nothing more satisfying to countless parents than to get their kids to rake in the grades, crack the exams, and traipse into the IITs and IIMs. The Byju's indulgence for parents is ultimately a means to such ends.
Thankfully for now, we haven't yet succumbed.